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Things You Can Do For Your Mom

Often, moms do virtually all of the giving

and very little, if any, of the taking from their families. They may not say it,

but most of them want to be appreciated in small ways. You don't have to buy

them a car or a house (you could do that too), but it's the small things that

count with mom.

Here are some ideas of how you can let mom know that all

of her giving has and continues to be appreciated.

1. Give mom a

vacation

Don't think Hawaii . Think of a day away from the kitchen. Or

the home. Give her a vacation from the home where for her, most of the seemingly

endless housework is done daily. Or, if she doesn't want that, start doing your

share around the house. Maybe you could start giving her one day of the week

off, when she does no cooking or household chores. Remember, fathers and

husbands work hard at the office, but they get a two-day weekend in most cases.

Moms usually don't even get a full day off. And if they are also working

outside, it's like two full time jobs.

2. Let's hear her life story: a

mom's circle

She may have read you bedtime stories when you were small,

but now it's time for her to tell you a different story-about herself. Make a

mom's circle at home in which you ask her to tell her life story. Mom's circle

may actually turn into a project: one family member could write this up into a

report, another could make a story book out of it and a third could video/audio

record it. A mom's circle may become an ongoing family tradition.

3. Try

beating mom's cooking

While most moms ask their kids what they want to

eat, turn the tables around and do the same for her. Is there special food your

mom likes? Buy or prepare that food for her (if you are not the best of cooks,

maybe it's safer to just buy it).

4. Is your mom in a nursing

home

If your mom is in a nursing home, why not plan to bring her home for

a weekend visit to stay with you. Even better, why not make this a weekly, or

twice a month set up, so you can spend more time with her and she can be around

those who really love her more often? Of course the ultimate gift will be if you

can liberate her from that nursing home so she can stay in her room in your own

home.

5. Arrange a mammogram for her

Every three minutes, a woman

in America is diagnosed with breast cancer. That woman could be your

mom.

A woman's chances of developing breast cancer increases with age.

The National Cancer Institute recommends women age 40 and over be screened with

mammography every one to two years. It also advises that women at higher risk of

breast cancer get medical advice before they are 40 about when to begin

screening and about the frequency of their screening. Do this for your mom, so

you can see her spend the rest of her life in good health, Insha Allah (if God

wills).

6. Is your mom a bookworm?

If so, buy a small cabinet and

buy all of the books you can afford. Then take it to her home and set it up for

her.

7. If your mom is a non-Muslim

If your mom is a non-Muslim,

try fasting for a day (Nafil or extra fasting), and keep thinking and praying

for her. Ask Allah that He guides her and ask Him what you can do to help her

understand her own Creator.

8. If your relationship has not been the best

with your Mom

If your relationship with your mom has not been the best,

sit down in front of a year-long calendar or planner and mark down dates and

things which you can plan to improve this relationship. Start off by making a

formal first appointment. Then pick dates on which you can keep contact with her

and build your relationship on a regular basis.

9. If mom is not

alive

If your mom is not alive, visit her relatives and friends and ask

what you can do for them.. Consider these two Hadiths (sayings of the Prophet

Muhammad peace and blessings be upon him):

1. The Messenger of Allah

said: When a person dies, his actions come to an end, except for three things: a

continuing Sadaqa (charity), knowledge from which benefit is still being

derived, and a righteous child who prays for her or him (translated meaning from

Muslim).

2. Abu Usaid Saidi said: We were once sitting with Rasulullah

when a man from the tribe of Salmah came and said to him: O Messenger of Allah!

do my parents have rights over me even after they have died? And Rasulullah

said:

Yes. You must pray to Allah to bless them with His Forgiveness and

Mercy, fulfill the promises they made to anyone, and respect their relations and

their friends (Abu Dawud and Ibn Majah).

10. Pick up her feet and spread

the word

The Prophet Muhammad said: Your Heaven lies under the feet of

your mother (Ahmad, Nasai). Ask your mom to lift her feet, so you can locate

where Jannah is. Then tell others about your discovery by sharing what Islam has

to say about moms and their importance in our lives.